So, as I said before, Jerry wanted to take me out for my birthday. I was so excited because I hadn’t had a “real” birthday date in a very long time. Even when I was married, my husband didn’t celebrate my birthday. I usually sat at home, doing nothing, which in turn caused me to dread my birthday every year.
The day arrives and Jerry texts me to say that I am “all his” after he gets off work at 4:30pm. He asks me what time I’m going to be ready. I say, “Anytime after 6:30.” I proceed to get all cleaned up and am patiently sitting on my couch, waiting for him to show up at 6:30. 7:00 rolls around and I haven’t heard a peep. I text him and ask where he’s at. He says, “I’m still at home. I have a few things to wrap up with the kids, then I will be there.” Ok, I take partial responsibility for this miscommunication. I should have been clearer and said something like, “Be here AT 6:30.”
It’s now 8:00, and still no sign of Jerry. I call him this time.
“Where are you?” I say.
Jerry says, “I had to pick up something before I get there.”
By now, I’m upset. He rolls up to my place at 8:30. Eight-freaking-thirty! I was expecting to spend a decent evening with him. He calls me to say he’s out front, and I need to go out there. I agree, even though I’m still a little ticked off. He gets out of his truck and gives me two roses, each in their own vase. He then tells me I need to take them up to my place because I can’t leave them in the car. It’s too hot in there.
“Is this your way of coming inside my home?” I ask.
“No. but if you don’t want me to, I understand.” Jerry says.
“Ok. I guess it’s alright.” I say.
We head upstairs and I yell for my daughter, just to make sure she’s not running around scantily clad. She comes out of her room, and I introduce them. This is the first time EVER that any man I’ve dated has met one of my kids. It felt really awkward because I’m not very serious about him.
We then head out to our festivities. He says he’s going to take me to the Spaghetti Factory, then go to the beach for a stroll. NICE! We are about 5 minutes from my place when he sees a BBQ restaurant that he’s always wanted to try.
“Do you mind if we go there?” he asks.
“Ummmm…I suppose it’s ok.” I said.
We pull in, and wouldn’t you know, they are almost all out of BBQ because it is so close to them closing! We were lucky enough to get a little, then we drove to a local city park, and sat in the back of his truck and had a “picnic.”
This wasn’t exactly the birthday festivity I had in mind, but I was willing to “go with the flow.”
We sat in the back of his truck, listening to music, talking, getting to know each other…kissing. When it was time to leave, he tried starting his truck, but the battery was dead. Hmmmmmm! So he called AAA, and they came out and gave him a jump start.
We got the car started, and he took me home. He came upstairs to my place, and my daughter met us in the living room. We all sat there talking, and it felt a little weird. After she went back to her room, Jerry and I went to my bedroom where we could have some privacy. We talked and made out. It was uncomfortable because my daughter was in the next room, but I was willing to give it an honest shot. Unfortunately, he wasn’t a very good kisser, and that was disappointing. After a few hours, he went on his merry way.
Since I hung out with Jerry for my birthday, to the time this saga ended (Dec. 2014), Jerry and I never went out on a date. He continually texted me and sometimes even called me. He would always say that we were gonna go out, but never did. He said he was always busy with his kids, and that was his priority.
The last time I heard from him was in November 2014. I had gone to Washington DC for work. The first day I was there, I was being a complete tourist. I was enjoying my time alone, seeing all the sights, and really having a great time. Much to my surprise, I randomly get a text from Jerry saying, “Hi there. How are you? Are you working on any projects this week?” “Well, hello there! I am actually in Washington DC working.” I say. “Wow! You are so lucky to do what you do. Let me know when you get home, because I’d really like to see you, and catch up with you.” he says. “That would be great. I get home on Nov. 12, so any time after that would be good.” I say. Jerry says, “Awesome. I look forward to seeing you. Have a great time, and stay sweet.”
On the evening of Nov. 12, I texted Jerry to say I was home, and let me know what time works into his schedule. I never got a return text. Weeks went by, and I still never heard from him.
A month later, I was in Las Vegas working, and staying in the nicest hotel room I’ve ever been in. I decided to text him one last time. I said, “Hi Jerry. Hope you are well. I’m sitting here in this gorgeous hotel room in Vegas, wondering why you’ve disappeared. I hope you find what you are looking for, both personally and professionally.”
After I hit the “send” button, I deleted all his contact information from my phone. I didn’t want any reminder of him, nor did I want to be tempted to contact him. When I look back on it, he was truly a waste of my time, and I should have cut the cord the first time he went A.W.O.L. Of course, I’m most disappointed in myself for LETTING him treat me the way he did, and for letting it drag on for as long as it did.