I don’t know what to say other than “I’m human.” Is that a good enough answer? Probably not. Am I letting myself down? Absolutely. “What is she talking about?” you ask yourself. I’m talking about the married man (MM) that I’ve been dealing with the last 4 years or so.
I’ve never wanted anything nor expected anything from the MM. I don’t want him to leave his wife, in fact that’s one rule when we talk, text, or have met up…not to talk about his wife. Plain and simple…unless he is hurting about something, I don’t want to know. I think this is one of the reasons that he feels so safe with me. Plus, I can keep a secret.
There was a lot of stuff going on in my life since my last post of substance in April. I had declared back then that I was THROUGH with the MM. But like any person who has an addiction, I became really weak and gave into my temptations with the MM this past July. I saw him a lot. His wife was out of town for a few weeks, and we went at it. I’m not gonna lie, it was amazing. After it was all said and done, I had to pull away. I purposely withdrew any contact with him because during that time with him I found myself getting too close. His freedom made him easier accessible, he’d pick up the phone or he’d call me. And I liked it. But I knew I couldn’t have it.
This isn’t just a sexual thing between us. We are friends. We talk & text about work, and other things in our lives, but we do have this amazing sexual chemistry between us. On the last night we spent together, as we were saying goodbye, we both had tears in our eyes. He has repeatedly told me how much he wants the very best for me. And I’ve told him that I can’t wait for that moment when I call him to tell him I’ve met someone and I’m in love. He knows I want that more than ever!
I run the gamut of emotions every time I go through this cycle. Self loathing, anger, resentment, disappointment, selfishness, depression, sadness. You name it…I’ve been there. As a reader, you may be disgusted with my morals, and dishonesty. I can’t say I’d blame you. I take full responsibility for my actions, and the one person I’ve let down the most is me. I know that I need to step up. If I want respect, and the right man to be in my life, then I need to live that life of self-respect to welcome him in. Please tell me something I don’t know.