I’ve always had a strong sex drive. I used to think there was something wrong with me because my libido was so active. I think about sex a lot. When I look at a man, I can imagine having sex with him. Or not. I don’t act on those thoughts, I just enjoy them. It’s kind of like window shopping. Going to the mall, walking around, looking at the merchandise. You know you don’t have any money to spend, but you still enjoy it.
Let me get one thing straight….I am totally monogamous, and I’m not an addict. I just love having sex with my man. I’m a “anytime, anywhere” kind of girl. I do have to admit, it can get very frustrating at times. The longer I go without, the more I want it. Which brings me to my friend Scott.
Scott was a guy I met through the dating site. I was attracted to him because he is a musician. We have some mutual friends, and quite frankly, I was shocked when I saw his profile on the site. I decided to say hello to him, and through our emails, we hit it off. We met one afternoon for a movie. There was a definite attraction between us. We had a wonderful time talking, getting to know each other. After the movie he walked me to my car, told me he had a great time, and said how he’d really like to see me again. “Yeah, that would be nice”, I said.
A week or so goes by, during which we are talking on the phone. One morning, we were texting, and he said he was feeling a little frisky. He then sent me a text saying what he wanted to do to me in bed. Well, I went for it. We sexted back and forth, until he finally said, “I’m coming over….NOW!” He was at my place within the hour, and we completely ravished each other for the next two hours. As much as I wanted to see if Scott was possible “relationship” material, I knew there was no going back.
He would go out on the road for a week, and I wouldn’t hear anything from him. About a month after our romp, a few text messages, we decide that we are going to go to lunch. I am heading out of town for work, and I’ll be gone for a while, so it would be nice to catch up with him. The day comes and goes, and I don’t hear a thing (sounds like my other friend Dennis). I decide to completely write him off. D-O-N-E!
Another month goes by, without a word when out of the blue he sends me a video of himself…..masturbating! I was at work, and I didn’t respond. I just hit delete. At the time, I wasn’t quite sure how to take that. Was it a good thing, or a bad thing? A few more weeks goes by when he texts me “Hey there (he never said my name…I don’t think he remembered), you doing ok? I sent you something a few weeks ago, didn’t get a reply. Are you back home in LA?” I answer, “Hey back. Yes, I am home.” I didn’t address the video, because now I know that this is ALL it’s going to be between us. I don’t hear from Scott for another month.
Two weeks ago, I get text from him. He says, “Hey there! I am home for a week, I was wondering if you’d like to meet up one afternoon.” I say, “Sure. It’d be nice to see you.” Scott says, “I’ll hit you up in the next few days.”
As those days go by, I am thinking to myself “Is this really the kind of relationship I really want?” I knew that it wasn’t. Mind you, he is a musician, and I kept thinking that he has women tucked away wherever his job may take him. Do I want to be a part of that “group”. As much as I love sex, am all for a booty call from time to time, I do respect myself more than that, and I WANT a man who cares about ME!
It was about 1am, and I sent him a text asking him, “What’s up?” He says, “Maybe we can get together this weekend.” Wanting to make sure we were on the same page I say, “What did you have in mind? Lunch?” He says, “We could start with that. And then I would _____(what he sexually wanted to do).”
I waited a couple of minutes, telling myself that what I say will probably end this, and are you ok with that. I texted him back saying, “I really apologize if I gave you the impression that I am a booty call kind of girl. So, I am going to have to pass.” He said, “Oh, sorry. We don’t have to do that. I won’t bring it up again.” I said, “But, if you ever want to get together for coffee, drinks, etc. I welcome that!” His last text said, “Sure thing.”
I doubt that I will ever hear from Scott again. And that’s ok. It’s just not the right thing for me. I want more than that, and I’m willing to wait…albeit sexually frustrated….but I’ll wait, because in the long run, I am worth it!